The Fitting Room

          So often in our present society, we are faced with the mindset of “We need this or that, and if we don’t have it, then we might not fit in.” If we are not “in,” then we are “out,” but what are we “out” of? Are we “out” of a someplace where we don’t belong in the first place? This all goes back to the fear of loneliness. Why will we not fit in?  Often, TV and today’s “talk” shows swim in the water of stereotypes and judgments. Each of us is naturally one of a kind; therefore, it is impossible to fit “in.” Sure, there can be some sort of a resemblance, but beyond that, it will always be far from us as individuals.

          It is mostly one big sales pitch. But depending on the sharpness of your vision, you will be able to sense if this “talk” is information, communication, entertainment, or a way to get you to “play now” or “pay later.” This is where many use the power of hope against us, and essentially pull us apart rather than bring us together.  It is used in the idea of credit.  If we “play now,” we will have a better opportunity of not being alone now or later.

          It is also spun in the opposite way when we “pay now” and “play later.”  As a result, many end up working themselves into unnatural, altered psychological states of greed and attachment. By the time we begin to realize it (if we realize it), we are so overworked that we no longer have the mental or physical strength to enjoy the “play time we paid for in full.”  Often, this behavior does not totally stem from greed or vanity but from what we might feel our loved ones need or want For example, I see so many parents buying and doing things out of love for their children, but as time passes, they regret not giving their children what they needed most — themselves.